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Graveside thinking about writing in the future tense #journaling

Evelyn Goldbach
Photo of Evelyn Goldbach nine years before her death.

EVERY JANUARY, my thoughts turn to my mother's death and I recall things that might have remained buried in memories. This year, I realised mom often said things that fit in the future tense.

Mom kept her thick medical books on a bookshelf in "the sewing room" and along with my four brothers, we often flipped through the pages to discover things we never imagined about female anatomy. We asked mom about her days as a nurse and although she could have correctly said, "I was a nurse", she often suggested she would return to nursing when we all finished high school. But she didn't do that in her forties. [1]

Graham Greene once said that life was lived in the first twenty years and the remainder was just reflection. When I read that thought, I wondered if my mother had proceeded beyond the present tense and into the past perfect. The future tense was illusory to my mother because there were so many challenges in the present.

Two years after her passing [2], I remember my mom with ambitions she achieved alongside goals she abandoned. Her ladder of life was flat on the ground around the big house she helped fill from top to bottom. Her friends would tell her that the status she achieved in life wasn't measured by money or vanities but in the accomplishments of her family members.

So as I hold a Mass Card that bears the dates of my mother's passing, I think of the longevity she still commands in the advice she gave to her sons and to her grandchildren. In the future, decades from her leaving this world, my mom and the past legacy of her hard work, sacrifice and patience will resonate in the future memory of her extended family.

[Evelyn Rickelman Goldbach in photos. Born March 24, 1926. She died on January 8, 2015.]

  1. We made a five minute clip about Evelyn Goldbach by compiling images after her death. You can download the clip from OneDrive.
  2. "Remembering Evelyn Goldbach" on InsideView.ie, January 13, 2015.

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